May
6, 1995
Dear
Grandfather Robert and Grandmother Betsey, I
stood by your graves yesterday. More than that, I discovered your graves yesterday! Could you ever have imagined,
Grandfather, as you laid your dear Betsey to rest, that two hundred and one years
and two weeks later one of your descendants would be tracking down her
grave—and yours?
My
husband and I are still in awe that we found you! All we knew was that your
firstborn, Curtis (my ancestor), was born in Bethlehem, Connecticut, in 1792
and that you, Grandmother, died following childbirth in 1794, presumably also
there. We knew nothing of you beyond
that. Did you, Robert, remarry? Did you spend the rest of your life in
Bethlehem, or migrate somewhere else, as Curtis did? And we didn’t know when either of you were born (we still
don’t know where).
After
mistakenly searching a newer cemetery, we finally found the old, right one. Did
I say “old”? I’ve never been in one like it! In neither cemetery were there any
headstones readable as early as 1794.Oh,
Betsey, I thought, if Robert “went
off and left you,” both of you will undoubtedly be lost to us forever!
Then
Fred hollered! And there you were, with names and ages—and Lucy! So you did
remarry! Someday I hope to find out when. And you lived to be 79! That was a
notable accomplishment in those days. To think that 49 years after your Betsey died, you were still buried beside her.
In fact, I find it incredibly touching that you were buried with—probably
between—both your wives.
Because
the headstone gave your ages at death, we can now calculate the years of your
births: Robert–1764; Betsey–1765; Lucy–1767. I am really surprised that you two
weren’t a lot younger when your children were born. Of course, a number of
questions are still unanswered: Where were each of you born—in the
colonies? or in Europe? Were Curtis and daughter Betsey
raised by Lucy? Did you and Lucy have other
children?
The
family history we have is written by a daughter-in-law of Curtis’s who married
into the family ten years after his death; in it she says she knew nothing of
his childhood.
Another
corner of the tapestry of my ancestors has come into clearer focus. A big
welcome
Your great-granddaughter six
generations down the line, Esther
Moneysmith Gross Note: After carefully
reconsidering everything we know, it is my educated guess that Robert remarried
fairly early, that Lucy raised Curtis and Betsey, and that they likely had
other children (EMG 5-95). See confirmation of this in Robert Porter
history. Return to Porter Family
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